1. Ingabe kuwuhlangothi olulodwa ukuwuthatha njengonodoli wocansi?
Kubasebenzisi, kukhona uhlobo lokucwaswa "lonodoli wocansi", njengokungathi unodoli, uphambene.Kwesinye isikhathi abayisebenzisayo abalali nayo, baze bayidle baze bagone ngayo, bayibize “unodoli wocansi” kube sengathi ingcolile.Abasebenzisi kumele babe ne-euphemistic futhi bangacacile.Eqinisweni, ngombono wami, lo mbono uncane kakhulu ekuchazeni nasekuqondeni ubulili, futhi kufanele sandise incazelo yobulili.
2. Uyini umehluko phakathi kokuba nonodoli we-silicone namanye amathoyizi ocansi?
Abasebenzisi banezidingo eziphakeme kanye nezidingo zokwaneliseka ngokocansi, bazi ukuthi yini abayifunayo futhi banakekele izifiso zabo kangcono.
Ingabe ukuba nonodoli we-silicone ngaphandle kwesidingo sobungane nokusondelana?
Onodoli be-silicone bathatha indawo yokuphila kwangempela nokwaneliseka.Eqinisweni, ifana ncamashi ne-psychology yothando, kodwa ithambekele kakhulu ekuphatheni nasekulawuleni umuntu.Kungenzeka ukuthi uye wabhekana nezingqinamba ekuphileni kwangempela, kunzima ukusungula ubuhlobo bangempela obungcono, noma ezinye zezidingo zakhe ezingokwengqondo azikwazi ukufezwa ngokoqobo, ngakho-ke ezweni elibonakalayo, ukwanelisa le ngxenye yephupho.
Onodoli be-Silicone banesinye isici.Basemseni wabo futhi abanakuphikiswa.Umnikazi unokulawula kunodoli, ofana nesakhiwo se-SM (somasochism).Abanye abantu bangase bangakwazi ukuveza izifiso zabo nomlingani wangempela, ngakho uthola ukwaneliseka kunodoli.
Yebo, abanye abasebenzisi bazoba nesimo sengqondo sokuthi “Ungangikhulumisi ngocansi, ngicabanga ukuthi kungcolile, ngifuna ukuba muhle kuphela”.Kodwa ngokubona kwethu, ucansi alungcolile, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi uya ocansini noma cha, lokho kuyisinqumo sakho.
Abasebenzisi bazophatha onodoli njengezintombi zabo, amakhosikazi abo, amakhosikazi ashona namadodakazi abo.Kungenzeka yini ukuba unodoli athathe isikhundla somuntu wangempela ngokomzwelo?
3. Unodoli awukwazi ukuthatha indawo yomuntu wangempela, kodwa ungagcwalisa ingxenye yokwaneliseka okungokomzwelo, ulungise ubuhlungu, ulungise ukulahlekelwa, futhi wanelise ingxenye yesifiso esingokwengqondo.
Kukhona impendulo phakathi kwemizwa yangempela yabantu, okungukuthi, nginemizwa ngawe, futhi unemizwa kimi.Unodoli wokulingisa awukwazi ukuphendula imizwa yakhe, noma ukuthi impendulo yemizwa icatshangwa umsebenzisi kuphela.
Isibonelo, uma ngithengela indodakazi yami ingubo, indodakazi yami ingase ibonakale ibanda noma ijabule.Uzothi, “Baba, angiyithandi le ngubo.”Kodwa unodoli akasoze waba nempendulo enjalo.
4. Imizwa yangempela inamandla kubantu futhi izobathinta abantu futhi ibashintshe.Ekuphileni kwangempela, abantu banokuningi kokungabi nakuzisiza nokungabi namakhono.Umcabango ungalethela abantu injabulo.Idala indawo ephephile yokuthi abantu baphumule futhi badlale.Kodwa lokho kuhlale kuwumhlaba womuntu siqu, hhayi impendulo yangempela evela ezweni langaphandle.
5. Lapho abantu benokusondelana kwangempela, kungani besadinga onodoli be-silicone?
Ukusondelana kweqiniso kuyalingana futhi kuyazimele.Ngakolunye uhlangothi, onodoli be-silicone nabo bawukubonakaliswa kwesifiso sokulawula ebuhlotsheni bobulili, futhi ukungalawuleki kwabantu bangempela kunamandla.
Ucwaningo lwedatha lubonisa ukuthi iningi lamadoda lisashaya indlwabu ngemva komshado.Uma wena nomlingani wakho ningakwazi ukufinyelela esivumelwaneni ngocansi kanye nemizwelo ngokuxoxisana, badinga ukwaneliseka ngezinye izindlela.
6. Iluphi uhlobo lwenqubo engokwengqondo abesifazane abamukela abalingani babo abanodoli be-silicone ngokuvamile abadlula kuyo?
IMPENDULO: Abesifazane abaningi bayoba nengqondo yokubhekana nenkosikazi yendoda yabo, “unodoli we-silicone wangehlula” noma “anginayo i-charm”, lolu hlobo lokukhungatheka luzovela, kodwa akudingekile.
Onodoli be-Silicone bayinto yangaphandle, kodwa singasebenzisa onodoli be-silicone njengezibuko ukuze siqonde ubuhlobo obungokomzwelo phakathi kwamaqembu amabili, ukuxhumana nabalingani, kungani umuntu edinga onodoli be-silicone, futhi yiziphi izinkinga ezingokomzwelo zabantu ababili.
7. Ingabe abesifazane badinga onodoli be-silicone?
Imvamisa imizwa nemizwelo yabesifazane iba bukhali futhi iyinkimbinkimbi.Banomuzwa wokuthi imizwelo nobulili kuhlangene, futhi badinga othile ozobathanda.Kunzima ngonodoli be-silicone ukubanikeza uthando olungokomoya.Ukwaneliseka kwamadoda ngokobulili kulula futhi kuqondile.Yebo, lokhu ukukhetha komuntu siqu, futhi kuhlobene nemfundo yomuntu yamasiko nendlela yokuphila.
8. Umhlaba ongaphandle kufanele ulibheke kanjani iqembu labasebenzisi bonodoli be-silicone?
Njengoba kuyiqembu, abanye kufanele babe nenkolelo ethile yabo.Wonke umphakathi namasiko usesimweni sokungabamukeli onodoli be-silicone, futhi ngisho nabantu abaningi bacabanga ukuthi lokhu kuwuhlobo lokungajwayelekile.
Onodoli be-silicone bahlobene nocansi futhi bayingxenye yangasese, futhi ngokwezinga elithile bahlangabezana nezidingo zabantu zocansi, kunendawo enengqondo yokuba khona.Uma kuyithinti impilo nomsebenzi womuntu ngamunye, futhi kungalimazi umphakathi, kuhle ukungagxambukeli.Uma unekhono, kudingeka ube nobungane ngokwengeziwe, ukuqonda, nokusekela.
Isikhathi sokuthumela: Oct-18-2021